As we enter the holiday season this week, I have a message for those who aren’t looking forward to it. The ones who have been hurt by a loved one and have let it fester. The people who have unknowingly been feeding their anger until it turned into rage and bitterness. There doesn’t seem to be an end to the torture, an end to the thoughts of what you want to happen to this person. Yes, you know it’s wrong and you realize they don’t deserve it, but you don’t know how to stop. Maybe the reason it started has grown a little hazy or maybe you remember it like it was yesterday. Either way, it is time to get off the Merry-Go-Round. It’s time to free your soul.
You may think your hatred is hurting that person, and you are probably right. Does it make you feel better to think of them hurting? Probably not. You keep holding on to your righteous indignation, but at this point, it has a hold on you. Yes, that anger has put you in a choke hold and now you are its prisoner. The anger that has been fueling you is probably losing its luster to you, but you don’t know how to let go. You don’t want to be this person anymore, this person you don’t recognize.
I have a solution that may not be what you want to hear, but please read it. Pray for the person who hurt you. Do you know how powerful prayer is? Prayer can change any circumstance, but more importantly, it changes you. When you have been holding on to anger and bitterness for so long that it has reached back and grabbed you, it can feel like no matter what you do, it won’t let go of you. Praying for the person who hurt you is like slowly pulling off the hand of bitterness, one finger at a time. It may be painful and it isn’t a quick remedy, but it will work. What do you have to lose? Praying for a person who caused you pain puts it all in perspective. It reminds you of their humanity and makes it nearly impossible to keep a tight fist on your anger. It shows God that you trust Him with your pain. He is the only one who can reach into your heart and warm it back up. He is the only one who can give you your life back.
Please don’t think I am trivializing your pain and what was done to you. I know it was terrible and you are now trapped. But if you don’t let go, I worry about your soul. I don’t want you to spend another Thanksgiving and Christmas thinking no one cares or understands. I care and understand so much I am crying for you. More importantly, Jesus cares. Place the bandage of prayer over your heart and allow it to protect your wound as it heals. Turn this pain over to Jesus and let Him free you.
May this be a season of love and forgiveness and the start of a beautiful future.
Linking with Holley Gerth and Coffee for your Heart.