We all have those people in our lives who, for one reason or another, cause us problems. If you can’t think of anyone, you are blessed. Or maybe you’re the difficult one.
One type of “fun” people are the ones who take advantage. “Will you help with my latest crisis? Will you watch my kids? Can I come over now?” It never ends with them! In the beginning we say yes and now it seems we can’t escape. We don’t want to be rude-isn’t that in the Ten Commandments? Thou shalt not be rude? Well, there are times to say no. If we don’t set boundaries, this type of people won’t suddenly do it for us. The ones I come across like this are typically pretty clueless about their behavior. Bless their hearts. So if they fit in our schedule, then great. But there is no room for guilt if the answer has to be no. Just look at it this way: we are doing them a favor and showing them the world doesn’t revolve around them. They need to hear no sometimes.
Then there are the over sharers. I tend to be like my Mama and her Mama, with my shirt that says, “Talk to me. I’ll listen.” (No joke-my Mimi had a man in the cereal aisle ask which cereal would help move his bowels. She showed him one with bran without batting an eye.) Now, with my close friends, I don’t think there is such thing as TMI, but that doesn’t apply to everyone. And I certainly don’t need to hear what mean thing someone else said about me. (Haters gonna hate, hate, hate.) This type of person frustrates me, but I also feel bad for them. We all just want friends. We want to be known and loved. Their conversational habits show me they think of me as a close friend when they may not have many. While I may not want to hear it all, they want to tell me. Maybe I should see it as more of an honor than I do.
The other type I see a lot is the negative person. These people don’t have much to complain about, but by golly, they think they do. Every little thing irritates them and they let the world know. In general, I want to groan when I see these people, but then they would just complain about me. Really, I don’t know what is going on in their life. There may be something in their past or present that I am not aware of. The best thing I can do for them is let them know I am here if they need me. Or if I can’t think of anything nice to say, I should just keep my trap shut.
There will always be people who get under our skin, because we live in an imperfect world. What really matters is how we treat them. Is there a difficult person in your life that you need to look at a different way?
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