It’s not that I have a rage problem. At all. It’s more that sometimes I have a glitch that makes it difficult for me to move on from anger. Or frustration. Or hurt. You too?
One day recently I started thinking about what I like about someone who hurt my feelings. It felt impossible in the moment, but the longer I did it, the more impossible it became to stay hurt. I had to come to the realization that this person is human and makes mistakes. They aren’t all bad.
At the same time I thought about this person’s good qualities, I found Bible verses that applied. I gave my frustration a double dose of the antidote, so I could delete it from my brain. Negativity doesn’t stand a chance when my thoughts are turned toward goodness and the Bible!
Here are 7 verses to help in times like these. I am writing out and focusing on one a day, and hey, there happen to be 7 days in a week!
When you are angry, do not sin, and be sure to stop being angry before the end of the day. Do not give the devil a way to defeat you. Ephesians 4:26-27
Always be willing to listen and slow to speak. Do not become angry easily, because anger will not help you live the right kind of life God wants. James 1:19-20
The Lord hates evil thoughts but is pleased with kind words. Proverbs 15:26
Whoever forgives someone’s sins makes a friend, but gossiping about the sin breaks up friendships. Proverbs 17:9
If someone does wrong to you, do not pay him back by doing wrong to him. Try to do what everyone thinks is right. Do your best to live in peace with everyone. Romans 12:17-18
Agree with each other, and live in peace. Then the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11
All of you should be in agreement, understanding each other, loving each other as family, being kind and humble. Do not do wrong to repay a wrong, and do not insult to repay an insult. But repay with a blessing, because you yourselves were called to do this so that you might receive a blessing. 1 Peter 3:8-9
These are tough words to hear when I want to hang on to my anger and disappointment. The problem I have is that I am a verbal processor. This isn’t so bad if I talk to James about a situation and work it out so I can let it go. It becomes a problem in those times I then talk to a friend or two about being wronged. Then it becomes gossip. Gossiping enables me to rehash the bad feelings, and then they don’t go away, but grow stronger.
It is so difficult to repay someone with a blessing, but it makes everything so much better when I can do this. If not a blessing, at least I need to let go of the bad feelings. They are too heavy to carry around anyways.
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